One time I got a small soap and shampoo in a packaged basket worth about $2 the most. To me I felt greatly offended. I even heard one of the people in the background say: "I need to take a shower." Ok. I take no offense, but if gift giving comes from the heart, which I believe it does regardless if a person smells or not, would YOU give a gift like this to someone and then people snicker and make fun of. Example: Let's say Jane had bad teeth, and I'm talking need braces or straightening, and I gave her a toothbrush and toothpaste as a gift, wouldn't that be demeaning and sad to her??? I think it would.
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Some people are just plain mean, they should stop and think before they do stuff like that. We had a girl that worked with us she was in foster care even though she was an adult as she was missing a couple neurons. She had never really been taught to care for herself. Someone gave her soap, deodorant, shampoo,and something else. She was so sweet she thought they got them for her because she didn't make as much money as the others. There were snickers and remarks behind her back and she over heard some of them. I found her sitting in the hall crying. I'm not one who has a very good control on my mouth. I tied into the worse offenders and then made up my mind she needed to have someone teach her. We took her to lunch on Saturday and then back to her place. We showed her the different things and explained their use and what they did. She was amazed. The foster home she was raised in as a child only allowed them to bathe once a week, she thought that was normal. They always used the cheapest bar soap to wash with and wash their hair. She wasn't allowed to use deodorant because it was expensive. Those people did her so much injustice. Once she knew she had been taught all kinds of wrong things she started learning on her own. With in one year she was able to advance to living on her own. She still works for the same company, she's learned to do some other jobs there and makes more money now. She also married a man from another group home and they are very happy. They have no children because she knew they could have problems too, I am so happy for her. I had a bad spell with my teeth, we had something in our systems that caused the teeth to go hollow. My dad had full dentures by the time he was 21, my sisters I think were 23 and 27. I managed to hold on to most of mine till I was in my late thirties, then they just fell apart. I also had one other problem, novocaine, nor any of the other things like that work on me. I always had to go to an oral surgeon so work could be done. It cost 5 times what a regular dentist did and we didn't have coverage. For a few years I was somewhat snaggle-toothed. My family doctor said I was starting to have an irregular heart rhythm, he decided it was from the toxins of my teeth. (I had no clue bad theeth could affect the heart).He put me in the hospital and took the ones I had left all at once. Six weeks later I had my plates and no more trouble with my heart. Like I said I have no trouble using my mouth so when something was said about my teeth I explained and asked if they would like to make a donation to help me get them fixed. That shut them up. Your very right about how inconsiderate some folks can be, I would never give a gift like that. I never even gave one of those fancy bubblebath and soap baskets they sell. When I give a gift I try to think about what that person is like, what they like and what would mean something to them. I think you must be a very nice person to think about how others would feel and have the guts to ask the question. May you have a Merry Christmas and may your New Year be Very Happy.
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