How could anyone be against adoption?

Alright, this has been irking me for a while and though I doubt I'll have an impact, I need to say what needs to be said. When one gets pregnant, they have three options. Keep the baby,give the baby up for adoption, or abort the baby. Those who don't believe in abortion but also don't have the resources to support a child often place their babies in the care of a willing couple. I'm using the broad term "resources" to encompass the full spectrum of reasons one might surrender their parental rights. These reasons can include but are not limited to: financial instability, lack of emotional support, being mentally or physically unfit, and simply not wanting to have a baby at this present time or at all. That last part is what I have trouble understanding when it comes to those who are anti-adoption. You can claim that these babies were "stolen" or "bought" from the birthmother's (and I feel no malice in using that term) womb as if the birthmother had absolutely NO SAY in what happened to her baby. Nine months is a long time people. It's long enough to decide whether or not you can financially,physically, and emotionally support a child. If you can't provide, you can't provide. No one is saying that the decision to give up your baby is an easy one. I can imagine that it is heartbreaking but you know what? It takes a hell of a lot more love and maturity to say to yourself, "I cannot give my child the life he or she deserves because I am (for whatever reason) not ready/unfit to be a parent" than it takes to keep your baby knowing full well that you don't have the resources. Those who say that keeping the biological mother and child is of the utmost importance need a reality check. Babies demand a hell of a lot more than love and a "bond" to sustain a safe and nurtured state. If you decide to keep your baby and employ every government handout, every church gift basket, and every ounce of your willingness to "make it work" then no one is going to stop you. However, understand that some women do not see that as a brighter option. It is 100% a personal choice and NOONE should be telling birthmothers that they are horrible people just because they know in their hearts that keeping this baby is not in anyone's best interest. Also, I've noticed a lot of people throwing around statistics with absolutely no source to back them up. How many adopted children go through phycological trauma (and I'm not using that word lightly) because they are not with their biological parents? How many adoptions took place where the birthmother was actually coerced into surrendering her child? I am not naive. These things do happen and I truly am sorry if they happened to you. The funny thing is, no one takes in to account how many children are abused/neglected/starved by their biological parents. Children need loving and supportive parents. Biology doesn't make a family. Love and support does. The only things I know about my birthmother is that her name is Allison and she was 14 when she gave birth to me. I think she made the right decision and me (and many other adoptees) are doing just fine. No one gets to choose which family they are born into, that's just the way it works. Pure luck.
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I'm so glad somebody finally worded this so well. I'm adopted and I can't imagine how I would've ended up if my mom had kept me. I had so many more opportunities in life because of my adoptive parents and to me they are my real parents. They have raised me and taken me in as their own and loved me. I was able to enhance my singing talents because they had the means to get me a voice coach. I was able to do the same with my piano playing. My mom couldn't have children and my birth mother was able to give her the gift of motherhood, that was a selfless act on her part and I love her and admire her for her choice. Any woman who is willing to take responsibility for their actions and not take the "easy way out" and make someone else pay for their mistake ( talking about abortion and taking the life of an innocent human being who did nothing wrong) is a real true mother. They put their child before themselves. Once again, thank you for sticking up for adoption and doing it so well! It means a lot to me!
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