For the last semestre my 17 year old son has been skipping school a lot. We talked to him about it and taken things away from him, we said he would have to earn the privilidge to have them back. The skipping didn't stop. We got a couple of phone calls recently from school asking us to pick him up 'cause he wasn't feeling well. At our house a gift basket was dropped of by a parent, my son received it. Then another parent from a school called about my sons health. It turns out that he has been telling everyone that he has an incurable brain tumor. At the time of her phone call my son was in her basement playing with her son. My husband and I went over to their house right away and confronted our son, making him appologize to the whole family. The same afternoon we made him go to friends that we knew and his girlfriend and come clean. We also took him down to his school to the vice principals office. He has had a very hard time in school. We gave him a couple of days off to recoup but made it clear that he will have to go back to school after that. We ended up getting a phone call from a friends mom, who was calling from our house, our son has called them over telling them that now he wants to die. We immidiately came home and took him to a crisis centre. They spoke to him which seemed to help at the time and our first counselling appointment is in a couple of days. I don't know if we can make it 'till then. He talks to us with such direspect. He tells me how much he hates me and even raised his fist at me. (I have never hit him) I've explained to him (many times) that he can be angry or frustrated with me but needs to speak respectfully. I've made him go on a run with me (even so he is cursing) and he'll be starting to voluteer. Last night was parent teacher night. It turns out that there is a web of lies, going back a year (maybee even more). He talks to us with such disrespect.... I feel totaly responsible. I want to help him but I don't think I can take much more of the verbal abuse. Can someone give me some (encouraging) advice. Do you think he can still succeed in life?
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I think you need to analyze the situation again. What else is going on at home and in your son's life that could be causing him to act out of character. Is there something that you are missing? Was he attacked or abused at school? Did he recently break up with a significant? Are there things going on at home that he might be having a problem dealing with (relative's joblessness, money problems, pressure to succeed)? Did someone close to him recently die or did one of his closest friends/relatives move away? Is he afraid of being on his own when he graduates? Is he worried about his grades (or the current state of his life in relation to) colleges, and other after graduation options? It sounds like he may need a psych eval to determine if he is experiencing some sort of mental imbalance. be prepared to seek out counseling and other cognitive therapies. Yes, he can still succeed in life. You are fortunate that this presented itself earlier in his life. You don't mention your husband really chipping in any help though. I think the best way to handle whatever you will face is as a team. Ask you husband to be as supportive as you are being. Good luck
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