How would you handle your kids grandpa if he was like this?

My son is 3 months old. My husbands Dad and Mom divorced about 2 years ago but anyways my husband's dad got re-married. My husband and his father work with each other so therefor they see each other everyday at work. The Lady my father inlaw married is a total weird-o, its like she doesnt want him to have anything" to do with his kids besides one of them which her daughters have a crush on, Yeah I know Freaky!!! But anyways, my father inlaw is very anti-social twords me, always have been, he is just set in his own ways. But anyways My husband and I had our 1st child this last past August, He is now 3 months old. My father inlaw never came to see his grandson when he was born at all, Chris's dad dropped a basket on my husbands desk at work, the basket had like wipes, Sleepers, things like that in it, but anyways we took it, Chris said thankyou...My father inlaw hasnt even asked to see our son, its very strange!!!!! Because he is ApeCrazy over his other grandkid. This makes me upset! Our son came down with RSV, My father inlaw knew he was in the hospital, and he is only 5 min. away from the hospital and didnt even come and see Donavon. But now around Christmas time I know he will get Donavon a few little things thinking it is gonna make up for everything, and I am really not a rude person but I really dont want to accept these gifts for my child because he hasnt been there for him at all, Nor even asks about him. I just dont know what to say to my father inlaw to make him realize? I dont even know what Im going to say to my child when my child wonders when he gets older why he is like this? Should I just keep him away from Donavon period so there will be no hard feelings when Donavon gets older? My husband has always felt like the black sheep and I dont want my kid feeling like that, ya know? What to do, what to do... hrmmm...
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Talk to your husband about it. It's his father & he should handle the situation. Accept the gifts just to be the bigger person. If he wants little to nothing to do with your child. Then it's really his loss. Right now you don't have to worry about how your child feels about this situation. Give it some time & things may work out in the long run. If your husband starts to get the same feeling. Then something will probably be said eventually about the problem. Just don't get involved unless you have to (pick your battles wisely).
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