He is married and they both have well paid jobs and a house.They have a 7 month old daughter.They had lots of gifts for the baby when they had it,including some new clothing essentials.All their baby equipment were second hand,some which i previously owned including a cradle and a bath.They bought a bag of second hand baby clothes for £10 off someone.My brother thought he had a bargain saying they would be worth £200 new,which i doubted very much.They even had baby clothes from me,sleepsuits etc.I do not think either of them have bought the baby any new clothes since having the baby.As the summer is here i felt she needed some summer clothes that were pretty,as the mother just dressed her in trousers and a t shirt.She was pleased wit what i bought.They now use a cot bed that was previously used for the mother when she was a baby 30 years ago,the only thing new was the mattress. Anyway,i am a single parent of a 21 month old son.I was so overwhelmed with love when having my baby and made sure i bought everything i needed,mostly new clothes,new pram,bath,cradle,moses basket etc. Even a cute baby hat and bootees.Now they never even had a hat for their baby in the hospital like most babies do.Even now where the cot bed is concerned ,the sides are quite low,and i warned my brother about the baby sitting up or standing and falling out.Instead of butying a normal cot with high sides,he has decided to buy some wood and alter the sides to make them higher.I asked why,and he said its all to do with saving money.Its not as if they are in debt or hard up,they spend money on holidays abroad and on furnishings in the house no problem. Now,even though i'm a single parent i still feel it important to buy my child essential toys.Like as a toddler he has a sit in car,Smart Trike and a paddling pool now the summers here,stuff that i felt he needed for his age.When he was about 10 months old my parents bought him a swing.It was only used for a few weeks i remember and put away.He's too big for it now and i was going to sell it.Now today he asked me if he could borrow it for his daughter.I told him he could buy it off me.He straight away pulled a strop and said No,he wanted to use it and give it me back when he'd finished with it.I said i don't need it anymore.He then told me to forget it! He said he doesn't want to be lumbered with stuff and having to get rid of them when he's finished.He said he hates clutter.I asked him if he ever intends to buy his daughter essential toys when she's older,bearing in mind they have a massive garden,i said like a slide,childs swing like most kids have,he said No,they intend to take her to the park instead.Do you think they are both tight fisted where their child is concerned? I can't wait to see when she is old enough to play with toys properly what they will do,especially when shes a toddler and getting into everything and needed to be kept occupied.They don't seem to have a clue.Surely you want the best for your baby,but they don't seem to want that.
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I know what you are saying. I have second hand stuff for my daughter, but I do buy new stuff for her as well. I guess people are just different with their kids. We don't have much money but I buy my daughter toys all the time. I guess it's just they way they want to parent but I do think they are just a bit tight fisted.
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