he is my bestfriend pretty much thats a guy.. im sure i am inlove with him , i have been for a year now.. he flirts with me non stop everyone can see we are in love some even think we're going out. he wrote on msn , after i told him how my whole family thinks he loves me . he wrote , will u go out with , cya ? i asked him at school what he ment he said he was joking? but :S ye and today at school i wrote on his hand , bestfriends and on mine he wrote I <3 u my parents get along with him cos he comes over and goes out to dinner with us for my birthday i got a gift basket with a chocolate rose in it with heart shaped chocolate.. he says he likess someone else though , but she doesnt go to our school , his friends dont even know who it is , i dont even think she exists.. he told me about her straight after we were texting because he was tryin to guess who i like and his letter of the person was the letter of my name but also the one know one knows? Help please. we are both 15.
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I am a 15 year old straight guy in high school, and this happens with most guys who flirt. If you don't want to read all the details below, the answer is to talk to him to for a while (a little chat) and when there is an opening, say something like "if you don't mind me asking, do you like me" or "why do you like me"? (I know it might be off subject, and odd, but if you want him to admit you have to be direct, and there must be no flirting). Make sure he looks you in your eyes when he is talking (he may be a bit nervous). After asking the question, you may intervene on his answer, by saying something like "because I love you". A boy always establishes his attraction in girls somewhere around age 12-13 (whether it be sexually, or by a crush). This guy likes you by a crush from what you have told me, but you never truly know what a man has on his mind. Relationships like this go for about 2 to 4 years, because he, is shaping into a man, and will mature gradually over the years. This is also due to the high school 4 year issue; high school is only 4 years and when it ends, two people with different futures usually split apart, by college, jobs, or another period of learning. Someone in a relationship may lose interest as they grow as well (no offense, but if you play the game you are going to lose eventually, unless you marry, and even then it is not secure because of morals and such). He is using this "other girl" as a jealousy factor (this may not be necessarily true, but you should look into it). A gift like chocolate is definitively an act of declaring love (not sexual, especially if he states that he loves you and then says its a joke). He has a little bit of doubt that you may not like him back (I mean *love* him back), so if you do give him hints above the ordinary flirting. Your family seems to like him so they will definitely accept him if he comes into the house, and since you are the same age you shouldn't have any problems with age awkwardness. Anyway, he likes you and you like him so you should openly admit your love to him and hope he gives you his in return. Do this in a private place like behind the school, were few people are to ensure if there is a rejection you won't be hurt terribly (I doubt he will, unless he is really nervous and has a stupid moment). ?Good luck?
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