I don't know if this is normal or not and I have no clue how to approach this situation, to me its beyond insane. My husbands ex-partner ( with whom he has a daugter with ) has / is telling me I am not allowed to buy things for MY OWN DAUGHTER! I had her with my husband obviously and she is 7 weeks old and she NEEDS us! She told me I am not allowed ( her exact wording ) to buy things for my daughter unless I buy things for her daughter too. I see where she is coming from, not wanting her daughter to feel jealous, and she isn't. My husband and I were very careful during the pregnancy and always kept her involved and I took her to my appointments and gave her pictures. We never leave her out either, we re-did her bedroom when we had the baby and we buy her more toys now to keep her from feeling jealous. So I dont think the ex's feelings are within that range, I think she is just being a *****, excuse my french. To set all my ranting off, yesterday she came over to drop off her daughter and my cousin was at my house visining from Ireland, I haven't seen her in ages and she came home to visit and made a trip to my house to see the baby and to give her a little gift basket, well my cousin was there when the ex arrived. And when I introduced her she asked her what 'that' was ( the gift basket ) and my cousin told her, and she ACTUALLY said MY daughter wasn't ALLOWED to have it because she didn't bring one for her daugher too. That was just beyond ridiculous to me, my cousin I haven't seen in 9 years and she doesn't even know my stepdaughter, I don't even know if she knew I had one since we're so out of touch. Well my cousin was so embarassed she left, and I asked the ex to come into the other room and I basically screamed at her that this is MY baby, and I am spending my money on her for things she needs, I told her her daughter has 2 parents to care for her and that my baby needs me. She told me I was wrong, how can that be? I dont even understand. Now she is threatening to take us to court so she can get child support from my income too, I told her to go ahead, my husband and I have seperate bank accounts. My husband is an excellent father to both kids, and is actively involved in his daughters live, he sees her and has her overnight 3 nights a week. I just don't know what her problem is, I feel like smashing plates over her head until I beat sense into her. But other than that, what can I do to stop this behaviour? its not healthy for our kids or anyone else involved.
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tell her if that's the case, she isn't allowed to buy things for her daughter without buying for yours- that's how ridiculous shes being. your partner needs to be handling this, you don't need this stress from an obvious retard when you've just had a baby. shes obviously seething with jealousy and if she carried on with this stupid immature behaviour i would ban her from the house. child support from your income? is she mad? shows what a money grabbing so and so she is. they'll laugh her out of court. if you think your stepdaughter is saying things to her mum, remind her that she was once a baby who needed things and they were bought for her, she had her turn now its the babies turn. good luck, i really feel for you.
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