Saturday, May 14, 2011

35 weeks pregnant? Have some Mother in law concerns?

Me and my partner are entitled to a 2 bedroom place soon as the baby is born. We did view places and try to get into a 1 bed place just so we'd be settled before the baby was here but they wouldn't except us as they think we'd be better off waiting till we can get a 2 bed house. So baby will be here very soon, but we are currently staying with my partners mother. We'll be here only a couple weeks after the baby is born. I'm very worried that she is going to interfer when the baby is here. You know, tell me how to do things, tell me I'm doing something wrong. She is very much that type of person and I don't want her to do this. Its my parenting experience. We have a perfectly new moses basket gifted from my parents but the mother in law still insists we use her moses basket that was kept in the attic for over 20 years. She also insists we must buy it another mattress. I find this unessacary, we've got one and would rather spend our money on other stuff the baby actually NEEDS. When we showed her the moses basket my parents brought (quite a while ago) she acted as though she hated us. So I know her reaction won't be great. Do I just tell her to back off if need be? Do I just tell her we won't be using her moses basket? I don't want to offend her but I want to be comfortable with my own baby.
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My suggestion would be first of all,use your own basket. This is YOUR baby and part of the experience is getting new things for the baby,if your mil has a hissy..maybe you could suggest using the basket to put stuffed animals in as decor in the babies room. I'm almost 28 weeks pregnant with my 2nd little boy and also have a pushy mil..thank GOD she lives 3 states away! Lol,my husbands family is planning on coming up when the baby is born and I already plan on sitting her,and her mother (my grandmother in law) down and telling them I want them to have an enjoyable experience with the baby but there is a difference between offering advice and TELLING someone how to do something. Especially after your baby is born,you'll be emotional and may want to remind her to be a little sensitive about things she says or does. Hope everything works out for the best,enjoy your pregnancy and baby! :)
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