Does your MIL do this to you? I'm so sick of it. Now she's making me second guess myself.?

I finished Christmas shopping today for my kids and thought I did pretty good. Since they love hunting around the house looking for their gifts, my mother-in-law keeps them at her house. I just brought the things I bought this morning over, and she told me "Wow, this is all you're getting them? Why did you take-in the extra 3 kids if you would have to sacrifice things for your real children?" I thought I did good considering we have 8 children this year instead of 5. So the question: Is she right? Or is she just trying to make me feel bad? 13 year old: silver Tiffany bracelet black Uggs Coach purse Wii Fit picture frames for room 10 year old: digital camera brown Uggs new bike DDR Hottest Party 2 (for Wii) scrapbooking kit 7 yscrap-booking for room (the only reason she's getting it is because my husband has a bunch of points from work and used it to get a new tv FREE) Disney's Hannah Montana DVD Game Hannah Montana Malibu Beach House Hannah Montana Wii Game Wild Planet Hyper Dash Game 6 year old: American Girl Doll karoke machine Wild Plkaraokeyper Jump Game Apples to Apples Kids Learning Journey Desktop PC 5 year old: Power Wheels Barbie Jammin' Jeep LeapFrog Leapster Learning System LeapFrog Leapster Game: Dora the Explorer -Wildlife Rescue Moon Sand Treasure Kingdom Totally Me! Ultimate Jewelry Workshop 3 year old: Disney Princess 12" Girl's Bicycle FisherPrice Kid Tough Digital Camera Fish Price Kid Tough DVD Player (got it 40% off this morning!) Cranium Hullabaloo Noddleboro Picnic Basket Manners Game 3 year old: Girl's Grow N' Go Bicycle FisherPrice Kid Tough Digital Camera FP3 Player Twister Hopscotch The Cat in the Hat I Can Do That! 16 month old: Eco-Friendly Rocking Caterpillar Ride-On Plush Rocker Vtech V.Smile Baby Infant Development System Vtech Roll and Learn Driver FisherPrice Roll-a-Rounds Listen-Up-Rounds Animal Friends Stacking Rings (made by TAGGIES)
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I'm very impressed with the list of what you got for all of the kids. It looks as if you spent a lot of time and thought in selecting what you thought that they would really like and cherish. As for the Mother-in-Law: I would have your husband discuss the situation with her, and mention to her that it is not fair for her to single out a particular group to give gifts to, or not. The older kids (5 and up) are old enough to realize who is getting gifts, and WHY the others are being excluded. Therefore, my advice (all $.02 of it), is that either EVERYONE has a package to open (with some sort of gift inside, price not important), or NOBODY has a gift. Don't pretend, and get something, hauling it over there. Just inform her that you AND HER SON have made the decision to adopt / take in / foster these children, and BOTH of you have decided to love them as your own. But your husband needs to have this conversation with her, and present this as a JOINT decision. And if she persists, your husband can always inform her that until she can accept ALL of your children, NONE of them will be visiting. Good Luck.
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