Okay... so just a tiny background check, I am only 20 years old. I sorrrt of recentlylanded this REALLY awesome job at a nice company in the office. There are only 4 people in the office and a few managers that work at my location... they've all been working there 5+,10+, 20+ years and they're pretty much like family. I have only been working there 7 months now and I'm just starting to feel settled in.Anyway,I am pretty good friends with the service coordinator.. and she's really good friends with the service manager, (who gave me the money).She knows everything about my situation and it's not a good one. My family is really dysfunctional and there's always something. I moved into an apartment... but had to move into a house to help out my mom. She lost her house... and lots of weird stories. I always tell the service coordinater mostly because she asks in concern. I'm looked at like the baby there.. which I HATE , but that's a different story. soo.. yea I never told her to keep it to herself, but come to find out she's really loud. haha. anyways, we have two days off, xmas eve, and christmas...so today was our last day this week. Everyone exchanged gifts.. little ones like cards.. or a sees candy... some people got a beer, baskets, etc. it was fun and it was a pretty laid back day... Anyways, just as I'm walking out of the door... The service manager says WAIT! Hands me the card.. and says merry christmas. I didnt think much of it.. but I decided to open the card before I left.. and whats inside?!?!?! Not one but TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS!!! Which is totally crazy because I have only talked to him a few times! I say hello every morning... as we pass... and we've exchanged some small talk... and I've seen pictures of his kids that he showed the office.. but thats it! He is way older and has a family and he's an overall great guy. My dad works there also.. did I mention that?? Not like he got me the job or anything... he is a driver and I never see him... but the guy that gavbe me the money is his manager. Anyways.. in the card he wrote "Wishing you and your family a merry christmas GOD BLESS, ------" OMG, Here's the horrible part!! I get out of my car and run back in.. and say "BLANK, did you mean to give this to me!!!!???" In front of another manager!!! he said "yeaa.. just take your mom and sister out to dinner or something" and I run in the office and show EVERYONE including the general manager what I got.I was like.. " I cant accept that can I???" and everyone just you know... said yea.. accept it. I'm wondering if the service coordinator told him about my situation and he felt bad for me! But I don't need it! I am fine on my bills and everything. Everyone is having to cut back on things... and I'm no different.. but I'm not living in poverty! I hope that's not how he feels... and Well, a few people I told about it brought it to my attention that what I did could have gotten him in a lot of trouble!! OMG! That would be so terrible!! I was so overwhelmed, that didn't even pass through my mind! They said he should have told me to keep it private if he didn't want me to say anything... because I would have on Monday even if I left. =/ But he did wait to give it to me on my way out. I even gave him a hug! A quick hug but I was so overwhelmed I wanted to cry! Ew, and I never get like that! It was just so sweet and thoughtful. So yea.. A few questions, I guess.. Can/Should I accept that?!!? Should I give it back? Should I apologize?? Is there any hidden rule for this kind of thing? Also... do you think he gave that to me because he heard of my situation?? That would be even worse. THEN.. I started thinking.. what if I showed everyone... and he only got ME a gift. That would be worse. Please tell me what you think and what would you do in my situation?!!??! THANKS!
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Can/Should I accept that?!!? Yes, but quietly. Why are you telling everyone, are you trying to make them feel bad they did not get such a gift, perhaps he gave everyone $500 and gave you $200. Write a SHORT four lines of thanks for the generous gift, I was honored to take my mom and sister to Dinner Dec 26 (whatever). Should I give it back? No, he said "Merry Christmas", it was his joy to see you smile. Should I apologize?? NO, stop and be gracious. Is there any hidden rule for this kind of thing? I give people gifts like this sometimes in a card, sometimes anonymously, sometimes with gift certificates, food baskets, etc. Also... do you think he gave that to me because he heard of my situation?? He may just like you and he always gives to young folks. That would be even worse. THEN.. I started thinking.. what if I showed everyone... and he only got ME a gift. That would be worse. STOP. Let someone do something nice for you and STOP being so self absorbed. Also, STOP talking about your personal life at work. Work is work, NOT family. It is okay to fell like family, just not fight or discuss other than work. Please tell me what you think and what would you do in my situation?!!??! THANKS! I would write a nice thank you note as I mentioned and make sure I am NEVER late for work and that I remain a good honest employee. You're a good kid, somewhat starved for attention. You may want to seek some counseling. Hang in there, And know this firm would not have hired you if your Dad had not had a great work record, good ethics and said he felt you'd do a good job. I'll be they spoke with him first.
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