im in the early stages of divorce and living at home still as i have no where else to live , my kids are 19 , 17 , & 13 yrs . i have tried to be as amicable as possible i have been sleeping on the settee every night , and keeping out of the way . i talk to the kids but they always say the same thing "its your fault dad " i heve sat them down individually to explain that its Both our fault and not theres . how ever when they are alone with me its all ok ish , as soon as mum is there they side with her . because i sleep in the front room and my wife has our bedroom she has taken most of my clothes and put them in bin liners and chucked them in the conservatory , everytime i place my washing in the linin basket she takes them out and throws them on to the floor . she has even taken down pictures in the front room that have me in them , along with any thing that remines her of me . dont get me wrong i understand way she does this she is trying to wipe / erase me out of her life . i ask her could i sleep for one night in our bed while one of my daughters was not coming home and she refused , so i accepted that . this happens All the time and i have been reasonable and gone along with that . last week end she was going out and there was a spare bed in my daughters room (she is 19 yrs and shares with her sister so i did not want to sleep in there ) so i told her early on that evening i was going to sleep in our bed for ONE night only because my back was aching. when i went to go into the bed she grabbed me from behind pulled me violently ripping my shirt , then when i got level with the top of the stairs gave me a push . she made my son called the police and my wife started ridiculing me, when the police arrived and the situation explained they said i could have her arrested for assault .I decided it was best not to pursue it as this in my view was not an option because it would of been horrible to see my sons face as his mum was led out of our house by the police. the police where great in offering me support as it was so obvious what had gone on so, i told them i would stay at a friends house that evening to defuse the situation . they told my wife what my decision was and how fortunate she was that i did nit press charges .( that would of been pointless anyway . ) whan i returned the next day the kids had all turned against me saying its all my fault , and have not been talking to me , i know they will come around at some point but its so upsetting that they can not see how they are being used as a tool . she has been buying them all sorts of gifts , being over the top and now i feel terrible . she is laughing and smiling in my face when we haveeye contact. i see this as an atempt to get me to argue , but i wont , you guys may not be able to give me the right advise as what i can do , but i will say typing this out has made me feel slightly better as i dont have many people to talk to .
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What she is doing is both simple and horrible - she's trying to make you so miserable that you leave. My question would be have either of you thought to tackle what ever the problem was that led to this happening in the first place?
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