Ok... for starts, Im not shouting in my title... I just need as many opinions as I can get here. So this is whats going on.. I met this girl back in 08. she became my world. She asked me to go exclusive with her after the second date, and I whent for it, I cut off the girls I was talking to or dating and gave her my undevided attention. She seemed to be everything I was looking for, untill I found out she had been playing me, she was not only still talking to a list of guys, but was exctanging nakid photos and sex talk, flirting and even having sex, she even banged a dude she never new in a burger king parking lot. I was crushed when I found out, but was too attatched and could not leave, we whent threw make up break up crap for like a year, I tried meeting new people and everything, nothing worked. To make it worse, whenever I would find out she was cheeting, and I threatened to leave her, she would fly off the handle, and start, slaping, biting, socking scratching, throwing things at me, she even socked me in the bread basket as hard as she could... she has scratched me blood and bitten me blood, all cuz I would tell her I am leaving after finding out she was cheating. Then she lied to her parrents (I found out later) and told them I was the one cheating and abusing her to save face, she even left me for annother man, but then came back after he got annother girl pregnant. She even kept all the gifts and memories she developed with these guys and tried lieing to me about them and flipped out when I would ask her if she realy planned on keeping them (of course I asked that with an attitude... Im trying to be honest), So now she aked me back, just this last vallentines day, so I met up with her, and after having sex I come to find she is not only cheating with me on a man she left me for and cheated on me with, but she is stringing along 3 other guys she cheated on me in the past with... none of them know about eachother... so she half assed got rid of them as I tried to walk out the door... she wanted me to come back and be exclusive with her. So I posted a question on here about this... and needless to say, annonomously, everyone told me I should get away from her... far away, and of course I did not listen. So... tonight, I told her my real feelings and how I cannot be with her any longer... I told her that 4 things would have to happen if she ever wanted me back; 1)- She would have to change her phone number and email. ( the email and phone number she has is how all these guys keep up with her, and she always tries to say they contact her... 2)- She would have to call all of them and come clean with them how she played them and tell them to never contact her again. 3)- She would have to come clean to her family about what realy has happened threw out this last year. 4)- Her family would have to accept us getting back together. Her only response was that those four things are stupid and that her family would find out she "is a little slutt" (her words not mine). She told me to ask any one and that any one would tell me my request in an attempt to start out rite as she would say and build trust is rediculouse. She would rather keep the guys hanging without an explination (or keep it open for her to go back to as she did in the past, after everything cools down with us, she starts cheating again), let her family not know the trueth about us than build things up between us. So... after a long fight, like all day fight, I told her that I wanted nothing to do with her any more... to never contact me again and never show up again. I told her that if it is not in her heart to fix what she distroyed, then it would never be in her heart to be true to me. And then I left and left her. But now I need to know if I was wrong.... please.. tell me If I am in the rite, or wrong and why.
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Wow, nasty girl seriously... Look by people telling you to leave is not gona do you any good obviously. They told you the first time and you did not listen. So if I were to sit here and tell you hey just leave her... Its not gona help you in anyway. Even though that would be the absoulute right thing to do. You really sound like a sweet and honest guy that would give up most for a girl. And yeah, it is hard to find such a guy out there with what you gave up for one girl that "used you, abused you, and now tries to make you the fault of it." You don't need that. Look even if you tell her to take those 4 steps she wont. Let her blaim you for her **** because you do not need her. The only and I mean only thing you can do is find a girl thats going to bring all your happiness back and forget about this nasty girl. Just do you self, and your broken heart a favor and leave... I was in your same exact shoes for 3 years. Except the guy did all of this to me. I finally put my foot down and stood up for my own sake. It was so hard i thought i would never make it through but guess what i did. And i live in such a better world then i did with him... Look if you want more help im here, You can go ahead and Email me... I'll really help you go through this.. I been in your shoes..and i might as well say it not sounding bad, But im probally the only one that would be able to understand you just cuz i went through the same exactttttt thing!!!
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